A little about me
I don’t only understand domestic abuse through psychology, training and years of working with complex experiences. My understanding of domestic abuse is personal as well as professional.
I know how confusing it can be to question your own judgement, replay conversations, wonder whether you’re overreacting, or feel like you’ve somehow lost parts of yourself along the way. That lived experience is part of what drew me to this work - but I’ll never assume your story looks like mine.
I’m warm, straightforward, curious and not easily shocked. You won’t need the perfect words, you won’t have to convince me that what happened was “bad enough”, and you won’t be expected to tell me everything before you’re ready.
We can start wherever you are and work from there.
Support, wherever you are
Through Psychology offers online psychological therapy to adults across the UK. You don’t need to have left your relationship, be in crisis, or even be certain that what you’re experiencing is abuse before getting in touch.
If you are worried about your immediate safety or need urgent support, Through Psychology is not an emergency service. You can find specialist domestic abuse and crisis services through the links below.
How Therapy Works
You don’t need to know exactly what’s happening in your relationship before coming to therapy. You might have left a long time ago, be thinking about leaving, still be in the relationship, or simply have a feeling that something isn’t right. We can start there.
My way of working is collaborative and flexible. Rather than fitting you into one particular type of therapy, we’ll work together to understand what is happening for you, how your experiences may be affecting you, and what you need now.
I draw from Compassion Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, CBT and Schema Therapy, adapting the work to you rather than expecting you to adapt to a model.
There is no pressure to label your relationship, make particular decisions or tell me everything at once. Therapy can be a place to think, understand patterns, make sense of your reactions and gradually reconnect with your own judgement, needs and choices.
Who I Work With
You don’t need to know whether what you’re experiencing is “abuse” before seeking therapy. You may simply know that something doesn’t feel right, that you are no longer yourself, or that a relationship is affecting you in ways you don’t fully understand. We can start there.
Still in the relationship
You may still be with your partner and know that something feels wrong, confusing or difficult to make sense of. You do not need to be planning to leave before coming to therapy.
Unsure what’s happening
You may be wondering whether your relationship is unhealthy, controlling or abusive, or notice yourself changing your behaviour to avoid conflict or keep the peace.
After leaving
The relationship may have ended, but the impact hasn’t. You might be dealing with self-doubt, anxiety, shame, loss of confidence or difficulty trusting yourself again.
The past still affects you
The abuse or harmful relationship may have happened years ago, but still affect your confidence, boundaries, sense of safety, relationships or sense of self.
You can also come to therapy if you are supporting someone you care about who is experiencing or recovering from domestic abuse.
What we can work on
Therapy can focus on what is happening in your relationship now, the impact of past experiences, or the parts of yourself you are trying to reconnect with. We will decide together what feels most useful to work on.
Domestic abuse & coercive control
Make sense of controlling, frightening or confusing behaviour and how it may be affecting you. You do not need to be certain that what you are experiencing is abuse before we explore it together.
Unhealthy relationship patterns
Explore relationships that leave you feeling anxious, responsible for keeping the peace, unable to be yourself or unsure where your boundaries are.
Life after an abusive relationship
Work with self-doubt, shame, anxiety, hypervigilance, loss of confidence and the difficulty of trusting yourself again after a harmful or controlling relationship.
Relationship trauma & attachment
Understand how earlier relationships and experiences may affect closeness, trust, conflict, boundaries and the way you respond in relationships now.
Rebuilding self-trust & identity
Reconnect with your own judgement, preferences, needs and sense of who you are, particularly if these became lost or difficult to hear within a relationship.
Shame, self-blame & difficult emotions
Understand why you may still blame yourself, question your reactions or feel responsible for what happened, and develop a more compassionate understanding of yourself.
You do not need to work on everything at once. Therapy will be shaped around what matters most to you now.
Get in touch
You don’t need to know exactly what you want from therapy or tell me your whole story here. A few words are enough.
If privacy is a concern, you can use an alias and tell me how it is safest for me to respond.